Recently, Chelsea (Notetaking Coordinator) made a joke-y confession to me: she had ordered a new outfit, one that was really only appropriate for the office. She felt silly buying clothes that she currently has nowhere to wear. But I totally understood.
When my mom was in palliative care several years ago, my sister, my dad, and I would switch off staying with her. On my time away from the hospital, I would head home to spend time with my dog … and then I would often go to Value Village. I had been a vintage clothing reseller on eBay before my mom got sick. Skimming the racks at Value Village was something that I did weekly. For me, there’s a kind of mindlessness in focussing on the clothing racks in front of me, skimming my hands down the hangers, feeling for unexpected fabric textures. It was both a chance for my brain to unplug and for me to find some comfort in doing something routine, regardless of the chaos and sadness around me. And then, voila! There would be joy in brushing over a bit of crepe de chine or flocked velvet.
There’s comfort in doing things that we used to enjoy doing. It makes us feel less adrift. It makes us feel hopeful that things will return to some kind of normal, where we can do those kinds of things again. And just, really, with all the changes we have to adapt to, if we already know that something holds joy for us, why not just keep turning to it?
You may to adapt a little bit. Tanya (Exam Program Assistant) and I are concert buddies. We’ve gone to dozens of concerts together. We both desperately miss live music. Obviously, going to a 2019-style concert is just not going to happen. But, we’ve been to 4 drive-in concerts together. We sometimes watch the same online concert while texting about the show. And we’ve figured out ways to stay connected with our favourite artists, which is a big part of the concert joy for us.
Living through a pandemic is hard. There’s so much uncertainty and worry. Our movements are restricted. We’ve had to adapt to new ways of doing so many things. Seek joy in the small things, and relish the comfort that comes from experiencing that joy.
Need some ideas? Why not:
- Play board games with friends over Zoom.
- Get dressed up one night and get some take out or watch an online concert.
- Handwrite and mail some letters or cards. Maybe your recipients will pay the favour back and you’ll find some joy in your own mailbox.
- Revert to your childhood and build yourself a blanket fort where you can curl up with a good book and some snacks for the evening.
- Make yourself a playlist that will get you up and dancing in the kitchen.
Joy doesn’t have to be 24/7. Just a little bit can give us the comfort we all so desperately need.
Wishing you moments of joy today.
Jacki for AES
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